The Important Balance of Flexibility and Determination

I have a vivid memory from when I was 9 or 10 years old about learning how to use a curling iron.

I am standing in my upstairs bathroom, boiling with frustration, because every time I tried to curl my hair I would get an awful crimp at the bottom. No matter how many times I tried, no matter how much hair I curled at once, that kink remained.

Be stubbord about your goals an flexible about your methods.

Balancing Flexibility and Determination

I’m pretty sure I had reached the huffing, puffing, and foot stampingย level of 10-year-old strife when my mom came in to check on me.

Growling in a not-so-friendly-tone (sorry, mom!) that the stupid curling iron wouldn’t work, my mom, in her infinite patience and wisdom said, “you just need to turn the curling iron over.”ย Facepalm

The Important Balance of Flexibility and Determination

Yep. I was using the curling iron upside down. All I had to do was use my pointer finger on the lever instead of my thumb.

Now granted, learning how to properly curl my hair at the age of 10 was no long-term, career-altering, or life-changing goal. Nevertheless, the message still remains.

Don’t give up on your goals.

Don’t give in to frustration, discouragement, lack of confidence, or fear.

Just try another angle.

We are all creatures of habit, and often times we return to the same methods and ideas because they’re familiar. This is why it is so important to be aware of our situation, recognize when things are not working, and try something new.

The Important Balance of Flexibility and Determination

If you can’t see that alternative angle, you might need someone with an outside perspective to help you out.

Turn to a close friend, family member, or mentor; perhaps they’ve had similar goals in the past, or maybe they’ll have an easier time seeing the big picture. Share with them your struggles, and come up with a new strategy together.

Who knows, it might be as easy as flipping over a curling iron.

Can you relate to this quote? Are you working towards any big goals right now? I’d love to hear about them. Let me know below!

36 thoughts on “The Important Balance of Flexibility and Determination”

  1. Thanks for the inspiration today! I really needed it. In the past for me, it’s always held true that perseverance wins. Sometimes I think we lose sight of our goals and that there is usually a rocky path ahead of great accomplishments.

  2. I’m working on my goals toward creating an Ebook.. I needed this little boost of motivation for the day cause I keep wondering if it’s the right thing for me to do or not.Thanks for sharing!

  3. So true that we are comfortable in our habits!!! For me I’m realizing that this actually applies to my weight!!! I’m comfortable in my heavy weight, even though I know it needs to go! Thanks for the motivation.

  4. elizabethbrico

    This is a great piece of advice. I’m trying to build up a freelance writing career and get my kids and I out of the devastating and depressing poverty in which we’ve been living now for years. I have recently had some success, but also frustrating failures, rejections, and a couple rude interactions with editors. This is great advice-persist, persist, persist, but also try different angles. I love the curling iron story, that’s so funny. It reminds me of my 3 y/o!

  5. Hannah Christensen

    Such a great quote, sometimes we do need to adjust our methods in order to achieve the goal in a different way than we first thought would work.

  6. I needed this motivation! My goal right now is to turn my passion (writing) into my career but lacking confidence is crippling.

    I also had the dreaded crimp when I first began using a curling iron!!

    1. I am so excited to hear you are pursuing that goal! Congratulations, what a wonderful and brave step ๐Ÿ™‚
      And I’m very happy to know I am not alone in the dreaded crimp ๐Ÿ˜‰

  7. Okay, I’m 27 and I had no idea that I had to turnt he curling iron over. I always wondered. Hah!
    But seriously, this is the best motivation that I’ve seen all day. I needed to hear this. I need to change my methods around on some things.

  8. I love that you share something as simple as using a curling iron the right way (I didn’t know and I’m 29!). This is a great motivational post and I appreciate that you encourage folks to turn to their support networks!

  9. I really needed this message today. Thank you for the reminder to look at the bigger picture! Also, I have never been able to figure out a curling iron. I’m 28 years old. No one has ever told me that I was using it upside down until you, just now, in this post. Maybe I can ACTUALLY not have stick-straight hair now!

    1. Oh my gosh I LOVE this comment. I am so glad this post inspired you to see the bigger picture, and am thrilled it if also taught you how to curl your hair ๐Ÿ˜€ It’s a two-for-one!

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