Overwhelming To Do List? Try This.

If you’ve ever done a big brain dump, felt relief for about thirty seconds, and then watched your brain start spinning about everything on the list, you’re in very good company.

While brain dumps can be a great first step for ADHD brains, the hard part often shows up right after. We stare at the huge list and have no idea where to begin. An overwhelming to-do list is a very real challenge, and it loves to throw us off at the exact moment we want clarity.

Today, we’re talking about a simple way to move from staring, overwhelmed, at your to-do list to intentional action using what I call the working card. We’ll cover why the long list freezes our brain, a better way to think about the whole system, and three practical ways to try this depending on how your brain works best.

Listen to the episode above or stream it on your favorite podcasting app. Prefer to read? No problem. Keep scrolling for a summary of key takeaways.

In Episode 367, we’re exploring:

• Why ADHD brains hit a wall when staring at a long task list (and what’s happening cognitively)
• The pantry-and-plate framework for rethinking your task system entirely
• How to build a working card in three different ways to work with your brain
• How to match your daily task card to what your day actually looks like

Why Long Task Lists Overwhelm ADHD Brains

For those of us with ADHD, our working memory performs differently than most neurotypical brains. And one of the things working memory is responsible for is helping us hold competing information without getting flooded by it.

When we look at a task list with forty-some items, our brains are trying to hold all of them in mind simultaneously, assess which one to start with, weigh urgency and importance and energy, and figure out what “done” even looks like for each one. That’s an incredible cognitive load. And for our brains, that load can tip us into a kind of executive function freeze, where we can see all the things and simultaneously can’t move toward any of them.

Our brains will often interpret this as laziness or procrastination. What I’d like to offer instead: our brains have hit capacity. When we have multiple complex projects all competing for priority, there’s a real limit to how much we can hold at once. As a quick nod to episodes 365 and 366, this is also where we end up overpromising and underdelivering to ourselves, with an impossible list that was never going to get done in one day.

The Shame Piece: It’s a Math Problem.

Before we get to the strategy, it’s worth naming what often sits underneath the anxiety around task lists and inboxes.

For a lot of us, the struggle carries a sneaky belief: that we should be able to keep up with everything. That a truly organized person would have a clear inbox. That if we were doing it right, the list would get finished and everything checked off each day.

For those of us with ADHD, this belief tends to carry a particular edge, because we often have a history of falling behind, dropping balls, arriving at things later than we intended. So when the list is long, or the inbox is full, it can seem like more evidence. Proof of something we’ve already feared about ourselves.

Here’s a different frame: having a full inbox or a long task list is a math problem. It’s items in versus the actual time you have to work. Whether you’re a knowledge worker in a typical 9-5, you work full time as a parent, you’re in a tech startup raising capital, or you’re an attorney drafting briefs late into the night, more information, opportunities, requests, and projects flood our inboxes than one person could ever tackle in a single day.

Your level of productivity or the number of unfinished projects in your task manager is not indicative of your worth.

If you want to dig into this idea that the to-do list will never be done, I highly recommend Episode 310: The Work Is Never Done. It’s a great companion to this one.

The Pantry and the Plate: A Better Way to Think About Your Task System

Okay. So what can we do with this list? Here’s the analogy I keep coming back to.

Think of your task inbox, your big brain dump, your full to-do list, like a fully stocked pantry. It has pasta, canned tomatoes, olive oil, spices, cereal, protein bars, popcorn, pretzels, fruit snacks, beans, canned soup, all the things.

The pantry holds everything, just like your inbox holds everything. We’re not upset when we have a full pantry (as long as it’s full of items we actually want to use and that haven’t expired!). A full pantry means you have options.

AND ALSO… nobody sits down to eat the entire pantry in one day. I mean, can you imagine?! You just got home from grocery shopping and unloading everything, and you immediately think to yourself, “Well… now I have to eat all of this before the end of the day, or else I’m a failure.”

Of course not!!

Instead, when it’s time to make lunch or dinner, you pull out a few items, put them together, and that’s what goes on your plate. You eat what’s on your plate. And once you’ve finished and cleaned up, you don’t look at the rest of the pantry and feel behind because there’s so much more to eat. That’s not what the pantry is for. You’ve stocked it, and you can refill it when necessary.

Your task inbox is the pantry. It’s the full inventory of everything you’re holding, every task, every idea, every project you eventually want to complete. It’s where things live between “I thought of this” and “I’m doing this today.” And just like a pantry, the fact that this list is full doesn’t have to be a problem.

So if the pantry is your task inbox, what’s the plate?

The plate is your working card.

Your working card is a small set of tasks you’re pulling forward to focus on today. We’re not pulling everything from the pantry. Just what you’re making for dinner. You eat what’s on your plate. And when the day is over, the pantry still has things in it. That’s fine. That’s right. The pantry was never supposed to be empty by bedtime.

This distinction changes what we’re measuring. We’re not measuring whether we emptied our pantry. We’re measuring how much of the food we ate from our plate.

Building Your Working Card

The working card is a small list, typically somewhere between three and five tasks, that you pull from the main task list each day. These are the things you’re focused on moving forward today.

If you happen to finish those three tasks and still have energy and time, if there’s room for dessert, go for it! The pantry is right there. You can always go back for seconds. But you don’t pile more on until a space opens up. We want to wait until we’ve finished something before going back for more.

Here are three ways to make this work, depending on how your brain likes to operate:

The Analog Version. Some people love the physical tangibility of a notecard or a sticky note. Maybe you have a planner or notebook where you keep your full task list. Then you have a notecard where you write your three to five tasks by hand, put it somewhere visible, and that’s your focus for the day. For some of us, there’s something about the physical act of choosing and rewriting the task on a fresh slip of paper that helps clarify what we’re doing, and it lands a little differently than looking at a screen. At the end of the day, it’s easy to see what you actually did. You get to literally cross things off.

The Digital Version. If you use a task manager, a simple approach is to create a “today” view that’s easy to populate. In Todoist, for example, you can use priority flags for the three to five items you want to work on that day. By flagging them, they filter to your “today” view, so when you open the app, those few items greet you first, rather than the entire list. The pantry is still there; your plate is just what’s on screen.

The Magnetic Tile Method. I’ve personally been using a magnetic tile system for this approach in my weekly planning. I brain dump all the tasks I want to do that week onto tiles, and then, looking at the day ahead, I’ll choose the three to five tasks that fit best for my schedule. For those who prefer a bit more structure, tasks can go in the general time of day you want to work on them. For a looser approach, you might just keep three tasks on the trifold for the day as a visual reminder. If you’d like a full deep dive on using magnetic tiles for planning with an ADHD brain, Episode 359 covers this in detail.

Across all three versions, the common thread is the same: a much longer task list lives in one place, and the working card stays separate, blocking out the noise and helping you focus on the top three to five things for the day.

Context-Based Planning: Matching Your Card to Your Day

Once you have the working card concept down, there’s one more layer that makes it even more effective: thinking about what your day actually holds before you build your card.

A day with back-to-back meetings. On a heavy meeting day, your card might include only one or two smaller tasks you can realistically move in a thirty-minute gap, plus any prep or follow-up directly connected to your meetings. A working card that says “write the blog post, plan social media strategy for the month, and review the proposal” is setting us up to fail on a packed day. A working card that says “prep for the 10 AM, send the follow-up from yesterday’s call, and draft the email outline” might actually be feasible.

A travel-heavy or errand-heavy day. On a day when you’re in the car a lot, your working card might focus on tasks that fit that context, an audio training to listen to during errands, a creative problem to think through while waiting in the pickup line, a birthday gift to browse while sitting in the dentist’s waiting room. We’re planning the card to fit the context, rather than expecting ourselves to produce deep work when we know we’ll be moving around all day.

A day with unpredictable energy. On those days when everything seems foggy and your executive functions have apparently decided to skip work without letting you know, the working card can be a real lifeline. Build it around one anchor task. Knowing how you’re feeling today, what’s one thing from your list that, if you created space for it, would feel like a win without pushing you past your capacity? Start there. One item. Then add one small bonus as the sprinkles on top.

Try It This Week

As you review your tasks for the day ahead, try asking yourself: based on what I know about my day and my capacity, what are the two or three tasks that, if they happened, would move the needle on what matters to me?

Write those somewhere separate from the main list. And then, if you can, see if you can let the rest of the list be the pantry for the day. Stocked, available, and not demanding your attention all at once.

A full pantry is a well-stocked pantry. The working card is what “done for today” looks like. And if those two or three tasks move forward, that’s a major win.

Resources From This Episode:

• Episode 310: The Work Is Never Done
• Episode 359: Time Blocking with ADHD and Magnetic Tiles
• Episode 365: Overpromising and ADHD: What’s Actually Going On
• Episode 366: 4 Strategies to Stop ADHD Overpromising
• Book a free coaching consultation
• Watch on YouTube: @I’m Busy Being Awesome

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