Happy Monday, friends! Can you believe we’re in the second week of December already?
I’ve got to tell you, I have had New Year’s resolutions and goals on the mind quite a bit recently.
Now, I know not everyone is a big fan of New Year’s resolutions.
In fact, I’ve met several people over the course of my life who believe either:
- A) New Year’s is a completely arbitrary date to begin working toward a goal.
- B) There is no point in setting New Year’s resolutions because they don’t follow through on them anyway. Instead, they just get frustrated by mid-January.
If you fall into either one of these camps, don’t click away yet. In fact, I especially encourage you to check out this week’s episode because I am approaching the traditional New Year’s resolution from a slightly different angle; I think you might like it.
And what’s more, I am creating a 2-part series on this topic.
This week we’re exploring the power of setting goals and New Year’s resolutions, the stumbling blocks we face when we’re working toward our long-term goals, and how to overcome these challenges.
And next week we’re talking strategy about how to actually set and reach our goals.
I’m telling you, once you listen to both of these episodes it will be like putting two pieces of the puzzle together; you’ll be stoked to dive in and start working toward your goals for next year.
So if you’re ready to create powerful New Year’s resolutions and make some game-changing developments in your life, then be sure to listen to this week’s podcast now!
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IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL DISCOVER…
- The power of setting New Year’s resolutions and goals
- Why we struggle to stick with our New Year’s resolutions
- Strategies to follow through on our goals and resolutions no matter what
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How To Keep Your New Year’s Resolution (Transcript)
You’re listening to the I’m Busy Being Awesome podcast with Paula Engebretson episode number 20.
Hey, friends! Welcome to the podcast. Did you have a good weekend? I hope your week is off to a great start.
I’ve got to tell you, I had a super fun weekend. I had tickets to go see Alanis Morissette, which I’ve been looking forward to for weeks now. And she did NOT disappoint. Seriously. So good. The girl can SING.
And I just love how hearing certain artists and certain songs can just bring you right back to an earlier time in your life. Do you know what I mean? Seriously, as I was listening to her sing songs from her Jagged Little Pill album I was practically transported back to 1995. I’m always so amazed at that brain-music connection. I think it’s fascinating.
Anyway, that is not what we are here to talk about today, though, that could definitely be an interesting topic to explore.
New Year’s Resolutions and Goals
Instead, I want to talk with you about goals and your New Year’s resolutions.
Now, this podcast is airing on December 9th, which means 2020 is just around the corner. And perhaps not surprisingly, I have had goals and New Year’s resolutions on the mind quite a bit recently.
I know not everyone is a big fan of New Year’s resolutions. I’ve met several people over the course of my life who believe either A) New Year’s is a completely arbitrary day to begin working toward a goal. Or B) they no longer set New Year’s resolutions for themselves because they don’t seem to follow through on them and they just get frustrated by mid-January.
If you fall into either one of these camps, no sweat. BUT, I encourage you to keep listening nevertheless. Because I am coming at the traditional New Year’s resolution from a slightly different angle this week, and I think you might like it.
And what’s more, I am creating a 2-part series with this topic. I have a lot of information to cover in terms of resolutions and following through on your goals, and rather than creating some epically long podcast episode, I decided to divide it into two parts.
This week we’re going to explore the power of setting goals and New Year’s resolutions as well as the stumbling blocks we meet when we’re working toward these long-term goals. And next week we are going to talk strategy about how to actually set those goals.
I’m telling you, once you listen to both of these episodes it will be like putting two parts of the puzzle together. You’ll be so excited to start setting your goals for 2020 – or any time in your life, really.
So if you’re not yet subscribed to today’s podcast, make sure that you do so right now. Just tap the little subscribe button on your podcast app and you’ll get the latest episode delivered right to your phone next Monday when it drops.
Why You Should Set New Year’s Resolutions
So as we dive into the topic of goal setting and New Year’s resolutions, I first want to talk about why you might consider setting goals and set New Year’s resolutions in the first place. What is the value of pushing ourselves to get uncomfortable, step out of our comfort zone, and try new things?
And to answer this question, I first want to explore a really important concept about worthiness and self-worth.
So here’s the deal; I think a lot of us believe that we need to set big goals and go after new challenges not simply because we want to, but because we think achieving these goals will make us more worthy. I think a lot of us are convinced that if we lose the weight, or we make the money, or we get the job, that this will make us worthier humans. If we reach the goal, then we are better. And I really want to take a minute and challenge this idea.
Worthiness: You are 100% Worthy No Matter What
Because here’s the truth, my friends. You are 100% worthy all of the time. You’ve been 100% worthy since the day you were born, and there is nothing that you can do about that. You can’t take away worthiness. You can’t lose worthiness. If you are a living breathing human on this planet, then you are 100% worthy. Full stop.
I know we haven’t talked about this on the podcast yet. And this is a pretty deep concept that I probably need to dedicate an entire episode to. But for the sake of this episode, think about something for a moment.
I want you to think about a newborn baby. Think about a newborn baby girl. She is so cute and squishy and perfect in every way. And even when she cries, and even when she’s up all night so you only get two hours of sleep, she is 100% worthy and 100% loveable as a little baby human, right?
Now, here’s the deal. There is never a point in time when that little baby loses her worthiness. She keeps that worthiness all through her toddler years when she’s crying and screaming over everything that doesn’t go her way.
She maintains that worthiness through her teenage years when she’s super moody and thinks she’s always right about everything.
And she maintains that worthiness throughout her twenties when she’s trying to figure out what the heck she’s doing with her life.
She maintains that worthiness throughout her thirties and forties when she’s struggling to balance a career and children and relationships and friendships.
She maintains that worthiness in her 50s and 60s when her children leave home and she’s trying to figure out this new identity of who she is and what she loves in this new chapter of her life.
And she’s 100% worthy from her 60s and 70s and 80s and onward as she retires from work and possibly becomes a grandparent and continues embracing this journey that life keeps handing her.
She is 100% worthy from the day she is born until the day she dies. And there is nothing she can do to change that.
Why You Should Set Goals and New Year’s Resolutions
Now I know this is a little bit heavy. But stick with me. I really want you to try on that thought. Because it is true.
And when start you believing that thought, you’ll understand that you don’t need to set these big goals for yourself in order to make yourself better or more worthy.
You don’t need to chase these big benchmarks in order to prove yourself. Because you’re already there. You can’t possibly become more worthy because you’re are. 100%. So instead, the reason to set these goals and go on these new adventures is simply to — get this — have fun.
Have Fun With Your Goals
Seriously think about this for a minute. If you truly believe that you are 100% inherently worthy no matter what, then deciding to chase these big goals and go after these big dreams is not an overwhelming, stressful situation. And whether you succeed at reaching this goal or not is not a reflection of who you are.
Instead, It’s just fun. It’s just an amazing reason to try something new and see what you can do. Because…why not?
Really. Try this on for a little bit. What if New Year’s resolutions – or any goal for that matter – was just fun?
How might you approach goal-setting differently if this were true? Would you set bigger goals for yourself? Or would you set them more often? Would you take more chances and step outside of your comfort zone? Would you try new things more often? How would you show up differently if all of this was just fun?
Now again, I know this concept might be unfamiliar or uncomfortable or just totally new to you. Especially since I know so many of you listeners are big goal setters and are constantly trying to reach the next big goal that you set for yourself. And I’ve made a note for myself to do an episode on worthiness specifically, so we can really dig further into this idea. Because again, this is a big topic.
And if you want to work on it more closely. Or if you can hear yourself reflected in these struggles of worthiness that I mentioned, then you should definitely sign up for a free one-on-one coaching session with me. We can talk through these thoughts that you have.
We will explore some strategies to help you start thinking about worthiness and self-worth in a more useful way to help you recognize your worthiness and also start taking action on these incredible goals of yours. Just head to www.imbusybeingawesome.com/freesession, find a time that works for you, and I’ll take care of the rest.
I got you.
It’s all fun.
Okay. So we know we are 100% worthy from the day we were born. We know that we don’t need to reach these big goals in order to prove our worthiness. So then why do we set goals for ourselves anyway?
Well as I mentioned, one of the most powerful reasons for me to set big goals is simply because it’s fun. Why wouldn’t you want to set an impossible goal for yourself? Why wouldn’t you want to chase that dream and see what you can do?
For me, setting goals encourages me to choose the bigger life. It encourages me to step outside of my comfort zone, to try new things, and to see what is possible. And every time I do this – every time I really challenge myself to take on the impossible – that’s ultimately when I experience the greatest feelings of joy, accomplishment, and fulfillment.
You see, goal setting allows you to push yourself further than you thought possible. It allows you to open new doors for opportunities and experiences. And it allows you to take a dream and turn it into reality. And let’s be honest, why wouldn’t you want to do that?
Why We Can’t Stick With Our Resolutions
Despite all of the incredible benefits of setting goals for yourself, there are some challenges as well. And in fact, most research shows that the majority of people who set New Year’s resolutions end up quitting on them by January 12th.
January 12th, people! That’s crazy!
And when I was doing research this week about New Year’s resolutions, and I kept coming across this statistic, I started asking myself – why is this?
Why is it that we set these incredible goals, and when we begin working toward them we have every intention of following through. But then just a couple weeks in, our plans change. Our priorities shift. And before we know it, we’ve slipped back into our old habits.
Why is this?
And as I thought about situations when this has happened to me in the past, and different times when my clients have run into this challenge, I realized there are a handful of different reasons that I think play a key role in why we struggle to stick with our New Year’s resolutions and goals. And today I want to talk with you about four important obstacles that seem to challenge a lot of us and what we can do about that.
Now one of the main stumbling blocks that I have found for both myself and many of my clients in terms of why we can’t stick with our resolutions is the simple idea that we are in a hurry.
What I mean by that, is that we want the results now. We want that goal that we’re working toward to happen now. We are in an instant gratification society, and waiting for results on a long term goal can feel like quite a big ask. It’s hard! And we’re not very accustomed to waiting anymore.
Don’t Be In A Hurry
In fact, I saw a dog-gif on Facebook the other day, and it really did a great job of demonstrating this concept of being in a hurry.
I don’t know if you’ve seen this gif before — basically, it is a dog – a hound of some sort, I think – pounding his front paws on a bathroom scale. It looks like he is jumping up and down and attacking the scale with his front paws. And then the text above it says, “when you ate healthy for one day and still weigh the same.” If you haven’t seen this, I will link to it in the show notes. I think it’s pretty funny.
But I also think it’s really accurate in the way some of us think about these bigger long-term goals that we set for ourselves, whether they’re weight loss goals or Wellness goals or career goals or financial goals. We are in such a hurry to see the results, that when they don’t happen overnight, we get upset and want to throw in the towel.
And in the moment, our brain believes that this makes sense. And it works really hard to convince us that, “Hey, you’ve worked hard. But this just isn’t working. It’s probably time to give up and just go back to what we were doing before.” Right? Does this sound familiar? Our brain tells us: It’s time to go back to the old way of eating, the old way of spending, the old way of showing up.
But here’s the deal. This doesn’t make any sense.
Our Brain Doesn’t Like New Things
Because we KNOW the old way doesn’t work. Right? The old way of doing things is what got us to where we are now. The old way of eating got us to the weight we’re at now. Our old way of spending got us to our financial situation. Our old way of all work and no rest got us to our current level of self-care of self-care. And our old way of getting new clients got us to the level of clients that we have now, but no more.
And if you are not happy with where you are now, then going back to that old way is not the answer. Now again, your brain will try to tell you that is the answer. Your brain will tell you to go back to what is safe. It will tell you to go back to what is familiar.
And this is such a fascinating concept. Let me explain why.
And I’m going to stick with wellness goals for my example because I know that in the new year, so many of us are looking to exercise more, or eat healthier, or lose some of the holiday weight, etc.. But if this doesn’t apply to you, you can easily put in any situation that is more applicable to your circumstance. Okay?
But let’s think of a weight loss goal. If you have a goal to lose weight, then chances are, you are currently in some form of discomfort.
Maybe you are physically uncomfortable with your weight. Maybe you are struggling with some health issues. Or maybe your clothes are just fitting a little bit tighter than you’d like.
Whatever it is, you are experiencing some form of discomfort and you’ve decided you’d like to make a change. So then you set a goal for yourself. You decide you want to work out more often. You decide you want to stop eating sugar. Or you decide you want to eat less flour. Whatever.
Now, because this is new. And because it’s unfamiliar. This is also uncomfortable. And as I’ve said time and time again, your brain doesn’t like discomfort.
The River of Misery
SO, when you don’t see the results you’re expecting right away, which by the way is totally normal as your body adjusts to your new routine, then your brain will quickly want to go back to what is familiar. And even though that state was also uncomfortable, it was less uncomfortable than the new goal because it’s at least familiar. And because we are in such a hurry to get to the final goal, we aren’t willing to live in that middle area of discomfort. We aren’t willing to feel uncomfortable.
Brooke Castillo calls this the “River of misery.” It is that uncomfortable time in your journey as you shift from where you are now to where you want to be. And because so many of us aren’t willing to swim through that river of misery to get to the other side, we call it quits. And we swim back to the familiar shore.
You Don’t Enjoy the Process
So why is this? Why don’t we slow down and allow the uncomfortable? Well, that brings me to my second point of why we struggle to stick with our goals and our New Year’s resolutions. And this is the fact that many of us don’t enjoy the process.
Instead, we see the goal that we set for ourselves as a means to get us from where we are now to where we want to be. We don’t consider the journey between point A to point B. We don’t think about how it’s actually the journey that’s the most important part of all of it.
It is the journey where we grow and develop and become the next version of ourselves. It’s the journey where we learn more about ourselves, what we’re capable of, and how resilient we are. Instead, we are simply in a hurry to get past the discomfort and reach the other side where everything is rainbows and daisies.
But here’s the truth my friends. “There” is not better than “here.” Really. Hear me out for a second. This might sound crazy but just stick with me.
Everything is 50/50
Here’s what I believe. Everything in life is 50/50. 50% positive and 50% negative. And you might want to argue me on this. But I invite you to think about it a little bit. Everything in life is 50/50. And you know what else? It’s supposed to be this way.
Think about it this way. If we were one hundred percent happy all of the time, then we wouldn’t ever know what happiness is. Because we would just always be happy. We wouldn’t know anything different.
However, as we know from living in the world, this isn’t the case. There is opposition in all things.
Think about a fish in water. Does the fish ever stop and think, “huh, I must be in water right now.” No. Because that fish is always in water. And the same is true with our emotions. If we were 100% happy all of the time, we wouldn’t know what happiness was. We wouldn’t be able to experience the highs of joy and excitement and love. Instead, everything would be just pretty neutral.
How boring would that be?
It’s Both Positive and Negative
And what’s more, I don’t think you want to be happy 100% of the time. In fact, we want to feel negative emotions at different times in our life. Just think about when you watch the news and there is a heartbreaking story on there about some kind of disaster — whether it’s a natural disaster or a man-made disaster.
You don’t want to listen to that story and be happy about it, right? Similarly, you don’t want to feel happy and joyful and excited if you hear about a loved one who is sick, right?
So there are times in our life where we want to feel the other half of the equation. We want to feel the negative half. Because experiencing the 50/50 is the human experience. That is what we’re signed up for in this life.
So if everything is 50/50, then let’s jump back to not enjoying the process. If everything is 50/50, then we also know that when we reach our goal, we are still going to experience both positive and negative emotions. We might deal with different sets of positive and negative emotions. We might deal with a different flavor of challenges and celebrations. But nevertheless, it’s still 50/50.
Now, I know this is probably stretching some of your brains a little bit. It’s one that I still wrestle with, too. But just think about people you know who have worked toward their goals in their life. Once they reached that goal, was there life inherently better? Did they stop feeling negative emotions? Probably not.
My 50/50 Experience
In fact, I think about this for myself as I worked through grad school and getting my PhD and then applying for a postdoc, and finally getting a tenure track position. Each time I worked toward the next goal, I convinced myself that “there” was better than “here.” I told myself that once I got to the next stage, that’s when I’d be happy. That’s when I’d find peace.
So when I started grad school, I thought to myself, “of course everything is really challenging now, but once I finish my course work and I pass the general exams, that’s when things will be better.” But guess what. Things weren’t better when I finished and passed my general exams. I still experienced negative emotions half of the time.
So then I told myself, “Once I finish and defend my dissertation and I have my Ph.D, that’s when things will be better. That’s when I will be happy.” But then once I reached that goal, I realized whoa, I’m still experiencing 50/50. I’m still experiencing positive emotions and negative emotions. I’m still running into hard challenges.
So then I thought, “Maybe, when I get my post-doc. Or maybe when I get my tenure track position. Maybe that’s when things get better. Maybe that’s when I stop feeling negative emotion.” Well, guess what, my friends. It is still 50/50. It is still 50% positive and 50% negative.
I’m Still Learning
And do you know what else? I still sometimes catch myself thinking “once I get tenure, that is when things will be better. That is when things will get easier. That’s when I will have less challenges. I’ll be less stressed. Etc.” But then I take some time and I remind myself no, that’s not true. Everything is 50/50.
And what’s more, this is all part of the journey. All of these goals, all of these experiences, all of the hurdles and challenges along the way. All of this is part of the journey. And when I can sit in that truth. When I know that this is absolutely true to me and my situation. Then, I can let go.
I can let go of the additional negativity and the stress of wishing things were different. Instead, I can just let the journey unfold. I can welcome the entire human experience of both the 50% positive and the 50% negative. And I can learn from each experience. I’m no longer in a hurry to get from point A to point B. Instead, I enjoy the process along the way.
And when I’m not in a hurry, I have a much easier time following through. If there are bumps in the road, I’m not tempted to throw in the towel. I stick with it. Because it’s all part of the journey. It’s all part of the experience. It’s all part of the 50/50.
So whatever goal or resolution that you set for yourself this year. I invite you to consider this thought. I invite you to let go of the expectation that this transformation should be fast. And I invite you to let go of the belief that the end goal will be better than where you are now.
When you do this, it makes it so much easier to stick to your goal when challenges come up along the way. Because you can remind yourself, “Oh. Nothing’s gone wrong here. This is just all part of the process. It is all part of the journey.
This is all rigged in my favor, and it’s helping me become an even stronger and more resilient person.
All right. How are you doing? This is some new stuff. There are some different thoughts. Are you staying with me? Okay
So we are ready to try on the thoughts that working toward these big goals is a marathon and not a sprint. We’re going to stop being in a hurry. And we’re going to enjoy the process. We are going to stop thinking that “there” will be better than “here.” Because everything is 50/50. We’re going to try and enjoy the journey.
You Don’t Have A Plan
Now the third reason why many of us struggle to stick with our goals or follow through on our New Year’s resolutions is that we don’t make a plan. And we are going to talk about this topic much more in-depth in the next episode. We are really going to dive into creating a strategy for your New Year’s resolution not only to get you moving, but also to get you to the end result and maintaining consistency throughout the entire journey.
But for today, I just want to point out this important hurdle. So many of us create an exciting New Year’s resolution. And we’re really geared up to get started. And for the first few weeks, we manage to follow through thanks to motivation. But once that motivation dwindles, that’s when things get a little bit more challenging.
Once an obstacle pops up, or things get challenging, or we aren’t seeing results as quickly as we’d like, and we don’t have a plan in place to keep us moving forward, that’s often when we get ready to quit.
Similarly, if we have a big goal that we set for ourselves, but we never take time to create an action plan that gets us from point A to point B, that makes it incredibly easy for our brain to slip into confusion, or overwhelm, or indecision. When we stare down that long-term goal, and we think, “alright, it’s time to get started,” it is so easy for our brain to respond with: “But I don’t know where to start. I’m confused. It’s too hard. Or I don’t know the right step.”
Create a Step-by-step Plan
But when you take time to create a clear step-by-step action plan, you then have an easier time sidestepping this indecision. In other words, having that plan is the antidote to your brain wanting to spin out.
Again, we are going to dive into how to actually do this in the next episode. So if you’re not subscribed to this podcast yet, make sure that you do. Just click on the little subscribe button on your podcast app. And you will be notified next Monday when the episode drops so you can learn this goal-setting strategy.
And also, this reminds me, if you have not signed up for my mini goal-setting training yet, what are you waiting for? It’s a totally free training. And in it, I will teach you some clear, tangible strategies to help you set and reach one of your goals. And best of all, you can finish the training in under 15 minutes. Seriously, it is well worth your time.
So if you haven’t signed up for the course yet, make sure to head to imbusybeingawesome.com/goals and you can sign up there. Otherwise, you can just head to the show notes at imbusybeingawesome.com/episode20 and there is a link there, too.
Know Your Why
Now the last reason we’re going to talk about today regarding why it’s challenging to stick with your goals and your New Year’s resolutions is that you don’t know the reason why you’re pursuing it in the first place. Or perhaps your why is not strong enough help you stay committed to your plan.
I can’t remember if I talked about “understanding your why” in the podcast yet or not. But it really is a critical component to following through on any goal that you’ve set for yourself. As I alluded to just a minute ago, when we start working toward a goal, we are often running on motivation.
We are excited by the promise of seeing results. We can’t wait to make progress. And we are all in. But then, nine times out of 10, we run into obstacles along the way. Maybe we run into an unexpected challenge. Maybe we lose interest in what we’re doing. Or maybe we aren’t seeing results fast enough, so we’re getting frustrated. Whatever it is, we usually run into some type of challenge. And it is at this time, that it is so important to understand why you are pursuing this goal in the first place.
What is it that made you interested in reaching this goal? Why is it that it’s so important for you to reach the end goal? What is it about this goal that lights you up inside? When you can return to your why when things get challenging, you will have a much easier time following through and sticking with it no matter what.
Why Times 5
And the approach that I like to do in order to find that powerful why is called the “why x 5 approach.”
Now I believe this strategy began with the Toyota company of all places. And they called it the five whys approach. And I want to give you the basic idea behind Toyota’s strategy, and then I will explain how I apply it with goal-setting and finding your why.
So whenever Toyota ran into a problem in their business, they would stop and ask why there is a problem five different times, which helped the employees not only understand why there was a problem but also come up with a good solution to the problem.
And Toyota offers an example from the 1980s about how they implemented their five whys approach when they were having problems with a robot that stopped working on the assembly line. And it looks something like this.
The first question was why did the robot stop working? And the answer was that the circuit had overloaded, which caused the fuse to blow. Then the second question was why is the circuit overloaded? And the response was there was insufficient lubrication on the bearings, so they locked up. Then the third question was why is there insufficient lubrication on the bearings? And the answer was the oil pump on the robot is not circulating sufficient oil.
And the fourth question was why is the pump not circulating sufficient oil? The answer was the pump intake is clogged with metal shavings. And the fifth question was why is the intake clogged with metal shavings? And the answer was because there is no filter on the pump. By using this strategy, Toyota was able to find a solution to the problem of why the robot stopped which was traced all the way to the fact that there was no filter on the pump.
Now, first of all, I think this is an ingenious problem-solving strategy all around. But more specifically, when I shifted approach just a little bit, I found that it was incredibly helpful in uncovering the bigger reason why we are pursuing our goals. And I found that it’s been transformative for both me and my clients. And I want to share with you an example that I just worked on with a client a few weeks ago. I think that it will give you an idea of how you can plug in the questions to your own situation and uncover your bigger reason why, too.
Why Times 5 In Action
So one of my clients who used this strategy was focusing on a sales goal. She’s in the direct sales business – she sells for Young Living – and she had a financial goal for the busy week of Black Friday and Cyber Monday. And she was feeling a little bit anxious about this goal. She didn’t think that she would be able to reach it. She was comparing herself to all of the other Young Living representatives. And she was essentially talking herself into lowering her goal.
However, rather than changing the goal, I first asked her to reconsider her reason why. Why did she set this big goal for herself? Why is it important to her? And the first time I asked her why she has this goal, she told me that she wanted to double the sales that she made during last year’s Black Friday/Cyber Monday week.
When I asked her why she wanted to double her sales from last year, she told me she wanted to reach a higher rank in her business. And when I asked her why she wants to reach a higher rank in her business, she said she wanted to demonstrate what’s possible in a MLM – multi-level marketing – business.
When I asked why she wants to demonstrate what possible in an MLM business, she told me she wants to show how a stay-at-home mom can make a living from home while raising her kids. And when I asked her why she wanted to show it was possible to do this, she told me she wanted to set an example for her daughters that women truly are capable of anything, and that there doesn’t have to be a compromise. She can be home with her kids while supporting her family. And that was her deeper reason why. That was her fifth why.
And once she uncovered that drive, she immediately stopped entertaining the idea of limiting her goal or pursuing something that’s more “easily attainable.” Instead, she lit a fire under herself, she kicked everything into high gear, and ultimately, she made the goal a reality.
So by taking the time to really think about why you are pursuing this goal or why you’re working toward this resolution, you will have a much easier time sticking with it. And any time your motivation wanes, you can call upon those different reasons why in order to remind yourself why you are committed to following through on this goal no matter what.
Now like I said at the beginning of the episode, this is part one of our two-part goal-setting series for the new year. Otherwise, this would turn into a very long episode. So today we have talked about why it’s important to set goals and New Year’s resolutions, and we also explored some reasons why we struggle with setting New Year’s and how you might think about them differently in order to start following through.
Next week we are diving into some step-by-step plans to help you map out a strategy to get from point A to point B and make that goal a reality. So make sure you are subscribed to the podcast. Just click on the little subscribe button on your podcast app make sure you don’t miss next week’s episode. Because I’m telling you, it’s going to be a good one.
Quote of the Week
Now before we go, as always, I want to leave you with this week’s quote of the week, which comes from Karen Lamb. The quote reads:
A year from now, you will wish you had started today.Karen Lamb
It’s easy for us to tell ourselves, “I’ll get started tomorrow” or “now’s not a good time.” We put things off until things “slow down,” “get easier” or it’s the “right time.”
But today I want to remind you that there really is no time like the present. And the sooner you get started, the sooner you’ll be moving toward that goal. The sooner you’ll be making progress. And the sooner you will see the results that you want in your life.
So I invite you to think about the question, “where do you want to be a year from now?” Think about that this week. And next week we will make a plan to take action and make things happen. Make your future self proud.
Alright, my friends, that’s gonna do it for us this week. So tell me, are you busy being awesome? If so, be sure to snap a picture, throw it up on your Instagram stories, and be sure to tag me @imbusybeingawesome. I would love to cheer you on!
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